They’ve had it wrong all these years: space is not the final frontier. The secrets of the female orgasm is the real final frontier, and there are men all over the world who would kill to crack the mystery wide open.
The truth is a lot less sexy than the mystique, which is this: the female orgasm isn’t all that mysterious.
Women respond physically to stimuli, much as men do, the triggers are just different. For a woman, the orgasm begins in the mind and slowly works its way out. She needs to be aroused – and anything can do it, from the right touch, to the right words, to taking out the garbage – and then she needs to be pushed over the edge, sometimes gently, sometimes roughly, sometimes with additional measures. The trick is to figure out what the woman you want to please wants, then give it to her.
Not every woman is the same, and thus you cannot adopt one ‘fail safe’ approach and apply it to every woman you’re with. If you’re looking for off the charts sexual satisfaction, that can only come from learning the individual tics and desires of your partner’s mind and body. Some women need more foreplay than most, or can’t orgasm with penetration and therefore need to be taken ‘all the way’ before you get your groove on. Her groove may have special needs.
There are some general assumptions that can be made. Most women like to be teased. This can include a variety of methods, from tickling to torture and everything in between. It’s never too early to start your seduction – the female orgasm can build as early as in the car on the way home from the restaurant, or as the lights go out as the movie’s starting. Tell her how she makes you feel, and what you’re going to do to her later. A state of suspended anticipation from earlier will make things run more smoothly in the bedroom.
Sometimes what God gave you just isn’t going to get it done. Through no fault of your own, you may be unable to get a woman to that big little death in the sky, and this is where vibrators come in. Using sex toys of your partner’s choosing is like giving her an all access pass to Fun Land. Most women are comfortable using a vibrator, and adding it to your sex play will help her relax enough to orgasm.
There are different types of orgasms a woman experiences – small, firecrackers that are over too soon, slow, shaking ones that start in the mind and end in the toes, hard, violent ones that rattle the headboard, soft, quiet ones that are almost easy to miss. None of them are better than others, it all depends on what you’re going for, what the goal is. The real secret of the female orgasm isn’t the orgasm itself, but your approach to getting there.
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