The life of a military wife can be a lonely, difficult journey, made worth it by the knowledge that your soulmate is fighting for not only your freedom, but the country’s. There are many big and little problems that crop up, but often, the elephant in the room ends up being sex.

Once he’s home, is intimacy magically going to return? Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. Maybe phone sex will help you, and maybe it’ll make being separated harder. Masturbation might keep your sexual being alive and awake until he comes home, or it might make you feel terrible, like you’re cheating.

Every woman is different, just as every couple is different. Comfort levels vary. These are just suggestions to help ease this journey – no one has all the answers, and above all else, trust your instincts.

Masturbation is not dirty or wrong. Some women still believe it is – believe it completely – and there are no judgments, but I will state it again, emphatically: masturbation is not dirty or wrong. It can, in fact, actually serve to heighten the pleasure a woman can feel with her husband. By knowing her own body so well she can help him know it better, and in turn, perhaps be compelled to explore him further. It’s also a wonderful stress reliever, and if there’s one thing military wives know, it’s stress.

His first day home, you may feel like tackling each other immediately, and if you do, that’s great – go for it! But many couples have a difficult period of adjustment. Your husband may feel awkward in his own home, having been away so long, and noticing changes that have inevitably occurred in his absence. In turn, you may feel unsure of yourself, of his state of mind, wants, and needs. If you experience any of these feelings, familiarity is your ace in the hole.

Maybe there’s a favorite movie you guys watch together, or a band you saw live once. Entertainment can be a great distraction and a wonderful icebreaker. Cook your favorite meal to share (or if he’s good in the kitchen, wait to prepare it with him by your side) or anything else that’s comfortable.

If you don’t want to fall back on old habits, communicate while he’s still deployed. Pick something – perhaps a pre-recorded sporting event he missed – and enjoy planning to do it together as soon as he’s home. It will give you an easy conversation point as you re-familiarize with each other and ease you into your sexual relationship.

Once you’re ready to move into the bedroom, it’s up to you what you feel ready for. Make it soft and slow, with candles and music and wine. Try something you’ve never done before – something wild and kinky that makes you both glad he’s home. The most important thing is that you connect, not just physically, but emotionally.

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